Sometimes it may seem like your teen is not motivated to do anything. She doesn’t want to do her homework. She doesn’t want to get good grades. She doesn’t want to get good test scores. She doesn’t want to apply to colleges. It seems like she won’t ever do anything. It can be so frustrating.
In all reality, there is no way to make your teenager care about something. As teenagers, they may not have a well-rounded perspective of their future the way that you do. And because of this, they may just not care the way you do.
The first thing that you can do is accept that you will never make her care the way that you do. So now that you know this, you can try some things that will actually be effective. For example, you can take the things that your child values to motivate her to do the things she needs to do. Make her complete one college application per week if she wants access to the car or if she wants to use her phone.
The best thing to do is to give your child tangible tasks that she can complete. It’s better to be specific when you are trying to get your child to accomplish tasks that are important to you. Instead of being overwhelming and telling her she has to do well in school if she wants to have a future, encourage her to study for her Chemistry test. Give her specific goals that she can achieve and feel good about herself.
Motivating your teenager can be one of the more difficult things to do as a parent. It’s important that you keep all of these things in mind so that you don’t have unrealistic expectations as the parent of a teen. It’s likely that you will find that in time, your child will become motivated on her own to do the things that she needs to do to succeed in school, in college, in life.